We have all at some point suffered loss and therefore experienced grief.

There are so many amazing tools out there to help us through the process of grief.

What I want to explore is the grief not associated with the death of a human but of a dream, a hope, a plan, a want, a wish.

No one really talks about the grief we experience when something you dreamed about is no longer a hope, much less a reality.

The strategies for healing when its the death of something that you wanted instead of something you had is different.

Acknowledging that what you wanted is no longer a choice and that it not part of your identity.

So often we tie our dreams and desires to our identity, and when that falls apart we feel our identity does as well.

It is ok to grieve the future you wanted, and it is normal to feel sad about a loss of something you didn’t even have yet. its human

As a special needs parent, I have also had to learn the art of shifting the dream instead of letting it die altogether.

Being able to pivot and move with the wants you have allows you to still have hope and not feel that your entire future has to die to.

No matter the grief, it all sucks.

Lately, my grief has been about the unknown and how I am having to move with my wants and not just throw them away altogether.

It’s a process, so I am giving myself time to mourn, miss what I wanted, learn to shift, and then accept the future as is.